I know you love those kids of yours! And you’re probably here because you want to show up more loving, feel more connected, and come from a place of peace in real life…moment to moment no matter what your kids are acting like.
Right now maybe you’re not only frustrated with your kids, but also frustrated with you because you don’t like how you’re reacting to them and feel STUCK!!
I totally get it…that was me too!
And let me guess…after you get frustrated with your kids, you jump into a little guilt cycle thinking you failed and could have done better??
Yep, done that too. I would beat myself up whenever I felt like I didn’t show up as the mom I thought I should be.
I’D asked myself.
“What could I have done differently? I’m responsible to teach and train my kids so they can become amazing human beings. I can’t just give in and not do anything.”
I often felt stuck and didn’t see a solution in sight.
At least not one that showed me how to stay calm, connected, and unconditionally loving with my kids AND teach and train them the way I felt a responsible mother would.
I thought maybe the kids would change.
If I could help them see what wasn’t working, have a few pep talks, keep reminding and correcting them; then they’d change right?
Seemed like a good plan.
At the time I didn’t realize how this type of thinking was hurting me. I thought I needed to keep pointing out the problems. I thought if I was just firm enough with the kids they’d eventually see that my way was better than their way. Once this happened I’d be able to consistently show up loving, connected, and compassionate.
BUT WHAT really was happening was:
I stayed frustrated and kept getting upset with the kids.
I gave lots of pep-talks, lectures, heart to hearts…my kids hated them and nothing changed.
I didn’t fully express my love for my kids…I felt like that was for the better.
I justified my behavior by blaming other people.
I wasn’t showing up for myself or for my kids.
I felt a constant Dull ache of regret, disappointment, and sadness.
When we aren’t feeling fulfilled we try to make ourself feel better.
We spend money on stuff we don’t need, spend time on things that don’t help us reach our goals. I’m not saying I don’t love to go get a new outfit, or watch a movie on Netflix, or get something from Sephora.
I want to be clear that a new outfit isn’t going to solve our problem of figuring out how to show up more loving, connected, and patient with our kids.
The problem is caused by the thoughts we are having about our kids and who we are as a mother.
At EXPAND we combine the principles of life coaching + heart centered parenting and combine it with real life experiences, science, and a touch of mindfulness. Creating a beautiful experience where accountability, trust, and honesty produce a space of awareness, love, acceptance, fun, and transformation.
EXPAND teaches you how to free yourself from the inside out.
WHAT DOES THIS KIND OF FREEDOM LOOK LIKE?
NOT CARING IF YOUR KIDS AREN’T HAPPY WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE 100% HAPPY WITH YOURSELF AND YOU DON’T NEED TO CONTROL THOSE KIDS TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER.
NOT BEATING YOURSELF UP FOR MESSING UP WITH YOUR KIDS, BECAUSE YOU HAVE MASTERED THE SKILL OF COMPASSIONATE SELF FORGIVENESS AND UNDERSTAND HOW TO BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF EVEN WHEN YOU FAIL.
NOT FEELING GUILTY AS A BUSY MOM BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU’RE TRYING YOUR BEST TO KEEP YOUR LIFE BALANCED, AND CAN STAY IN THAT SPACE BEING ALL IN AT WHATEVER YOU’RE DOING.
NOT LETTING THE SCHEDULE OF GETTING YOUR KIDS TO THEIR DIFFERENT ACTIVITIES WEIGH YOU DOWN. BECAUSE YOU KNOW HOW TO MANAGE YOUR TIME AND KEEP YOUR LIFE ORGANIZED.
BEING OKAY IF OTHER PEOPLE ARE WRONG ABOUT YOU, BECAUE YOU FEEL SELF-CONFIDENCE THAT COMES FROM INSIDE OF YOU NOT FROM THE PRAISE OF OTHERS.
It’s the community of moms you didn’t know existed and can’t live without.
Because I went through 30+ years of my life hustling and trying to figure out how to feel better.
I made big goals, and got lots of things done. Thinking that would be the answer.
I got my RN degree in 2 1/2 years, worked in the hospital at my dream job (in labor & delivery), married my high school sweet heart, had beautiful kids, watched my husband start what would become a successful software company, and traveled to some incredible places on my bucket list. Life was amazing by all standards YET I still felt unhappy a lot of the time. What was wrong with me? Wasn’t I suppose to be happy once all these things happened to me? I felt like I didn’t have any excuse for not showing up WAY better as a mom, wife, and human being.
I felt like I was letting people down (especially myself, my kids and my husband). Often failing…not showing up patient, loving, kind, and peaceful.
I’d get frustrated and blame my kids (then beat myself up about it), I’d feel upset my husband was putting in so many hours at his start up company (and disconnect from him), I’d count down the minutes until it was time to put the kids down for a nap (and feel awful I was so excited for some quiet time), I’d have so much fun working on my business, that I’d start to feel like I must not be a very nurturing mom.
I tried to have self-confidence but was so affected by any sign that someone might not like me or agree with what I was doing. So I was always trying to do the right thing to get affirmed by people.
I loved my kids, but felt guilty inside that I didn’t just want to play with them all the time like some of my other mom friends.
I felt like a fraud because my husband and I seemed to not get along as well as I thought we should, or as well as my friends appeared to get along with their husbands.
I claimed it didn’t matter what my house looked like, but was so desperate to get my little home looking great that I ripped up the linoleum in the kitchen one day because I thought it would improve the look of the place (we didn’t have the money to put in new flooring, and it didn’t improve the look).
THREE BIG THINGS HAPPENED
Having six kids forced me to have to deal with parenting head on. I was VERY motivated to figure this out! I wanted to connect and show up loving with my kids…and it was PAINFUL not to understand what to do.
Yoga taught me how to slow down, breathe, meditate, and enjoy the process.
Life Coaching…was the beginning of something totally new. My life was forever altered after being coached, doing the mental hygiene work, and eventually being trained to become a life coach.
Everything has prepared me to create EXPAND, and it’s mission to transform, empower, and support mothers in their desire to show up more loving & connected with their kids.
Over the years I’ve discovered that:
I have the power to create whatever life I want.
I am the source of my pain.
Getting upset is always the result of a thought I’m having.
Everyone is doing the best they can.
My thoughts create my results.
When we fight against reality we only lose 100% of the time.
It’s my thoughts, NOT the situations in my life, that creates my feelings.
Because you freaking love your kids and want to make sure you’re showing up that way with them (even when they disobey, fight, or ignore you).
Because you want to create more love and a deeper connections with your children.
Because you’re ready to get unstuck and up-level your parenting and relationship with your kids.
Because you are amazing, but you don’t totally believe it yet.
Because your brain needs help to create new habits, increase your self-confidence, and start showing up the way you want to with your kids.
Because you want to be the most incredible mom possible.
Because you’re ready to stop yelling at them.
Because you feel like you’re the victim of their tantrums, bad attitudes, messy rooms, and crazy antics.
Because you want to really enjoy the process of being a mom.
Because you want your kids to call you once they move out of the house.
Because being an okay mom isn’t good enough for you…you want to be AMAZING!!
Because you’re ready to take your power back.
The most amazing part is if I were to break everything I’m including in expand the total would be over $1,000/month, but my mission is to transform mothers all over the planet and I want to make sure anyone who’s interested is able to join. So I’m only charging $49/month. But don’t let that mean you don’t take this seriously. I’ve got amazing work I’m going to have you do once you are in expand. I want this work to change your life, like it’s changed mine.
Let me just say that it’s going to be your favorite place on the internet…once you get a taste of it.
You’ll feel a little more relaxed. You’ll be going through the first part of the EXPAND APPROACH called the expand choices. It’s where you’ll start to learn the foundational principles of the EXPAND APPROACH. You’ll start hearing some parenting concepts framed up in a way that feels true but isn’t commonly practiced. You’ll begin to appreciate yourself and your kids in a new way and learn how to be more gentle with yourself and your kids. You’ll be spending way less time scrolling through social media and more time listening to the expand videos and feeling old habits start to release their grip on you.
You’ll notice you’re showing up more curious and less judgmental with your kids. You’ll be loving and practicing using some new tools that are helping you not lose your temper as often. You’re seeing the power of NOTICING your kids and, beginning to understand what a reset is and how that can help stop the typical negative consequence train so many of us are on. You aren’t getting freaked out when something happens that you weren’t expecting.
You’re daily practice with the STEAR model and the EXPAND APPROACH is starting to make a huge difference. Often you catch yourself naturally thinking more positive things about even your most difficult child, and finding empowering thoughts filling your mind where negative ones previously resided. You are showing up more loving, happy, and connected with your kids and the people in your life. You are starting to see what you’re capable of and are proud of yourself and the work you’re doing. You are excited about the progress you’ve made and can’t wait to keep learning and growing for yourself and for your kids.
It just keeps getting more and more fun after this. And rest assured that expand will be there for you every step of the way.
Are you tempted to join but not sure how you’ll fit this into your busy schedule?
I hear you, but listen for just a second. I know you have a lot of things going on, but here is what I’m going to promise you.
The reason you’re feeling overwhelmed isn’t because of your kids, your husband, or the people you work with.
IT’S BECAUSE OF YOUR BRAIN!!
When you are taking a lot on because you’re a people pleaser, feeling guilty that you aren’t being the mother you want to be; when you’re worried that you aren’t worthy, and always wondering what other people are thinking about you...you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and tired ALL. THE. TIME.
Expand is actually the answer to that problem. When you start to resolve some of those things. When you learn how to process your emotions, accept instead of resist reality, love more freely, and feel empowered and equipped instead of scared and not confident, you will discover, you have plenty of time for whatever you want to spend it on.
I think its a no-brainer. You are a rock star TO have read through this entire page.
Let’s do this and expand your ability to love those amazing humans in your life.
Not only that but you’ll enjoy life more because you’ll have so much more awareness and an increased ability to love.
You are amazing and read this entire page. WOO-HOO!!!
Let’s do this and expand your ability to love no matter what, impact others by your example, and see everything as joy.
Hit the button and let’s do this.